Here's a number that should bother you: 91% of men report usually or always orgasming during sex. For women, that number is 39%.
Dame calls this the Pleasure Gap. It's the reason this company exists.
The gap isn't about anatomy. It's about design. Sex education, social norms, product development, even research funding have historically centered male pleasure. Women's sexual satisfaction has been treated as a bonus, a mystery, or someone else's problem.
It isn't.
Dame was founded by a Columbia sexologist and an MIT engineer who looked at that number and decided it was an engineering problem as much as a cultural one. If the tools, the education, and the conversation were better designed, built around real bodies, real research, real feedback, the gap would close.
That's what Dame Labs is. Ten thousand real users testing products before they ship. A clinical board of OB/GYNs, sex therapists, and pelvic floor physical therapists reviewing every design. Products built for how people actually have sex, not for how sex looks in movies.
The Pleasure Gap doesn't close because someone wished it would. It closes because someone built something better.
That's the work.
A few reasons, none of them inevitable.
Most vibrators were historically designed by men, for what men imagined women wanted. The result: products that looked the part but didn't fit real anatomy or reflect how clitoral stimulation actually works.
Sex education has focused overwhelmingly on penetration, which on its own leads to orgasm for a small minority of women. The clitoris, the primary source of pleasure for most people with vulvas, was an afterthought. Fun fact: the full internal structure of the clitoris wasn't comprehensively mapped until 1998.
Cultural messaging has taught women to prioritize their partner's experience. Asking for what you want has been framed as demanding. Needing more than penetration has been framed as difficult. Both of those framings are wrong, and both cost people real pleasure.
It looks like conversations. The ones you have with partners, with friends, with yourself about what you actually enjoy.
It looks like products designed for real anatomy, tested by real people, reviewed by clinicians who care about outcomes.
It looks like education that treats female pleasure as legitimate and worth taking seriously.
Dame makes the products. The conversations are yours to start.
The gap is real. So is the possibility of closing it.
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